reticence: (modern looking up)
Faolan ([personal profile] reticence) wrote in [community profile] retrospec2017-12-15 07:19 pm

TEXT; 001 - locked from laurent

[Faolan is definitely not the sort of person to use the network, not even to respond to it never mind to post to it. But desperate times call for desperate measures, and certainly this is a desperate time indeed.

How do people even usually address posts on this thing? He goes through the last month or so of them before giving up and just flying by the seat of his pants.

You don't even know how many times he rewrote this thing in the first place.]



Let's say, hypothetically speaking, that there was something quite expensive that you had wanted very much, and that someone purchased that something for you when they really didn't have to. Let's say that you could never hope to come up with the money to pay them back in full, but you would like to do something comparable for them for the holidays.

What would you do in such a situation?



[Help him, Retrospec, you're his only hope he desperately needs some advice here.]
doitrockapella: (HURT ❖ it's cool it's only a flesh wound)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2017-12-21 12:33 am (UTC)(link)
I don't think so. Frankly, I think it's an attractive quality in a person, if they've got the confidence to make themselves the source of a laugh for the sake of someone else.
doitrockapella: (ROPE ❖ just this and forced perspective)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2017-12-23 07:20 pm (UTC)(link)
It's about tone and context. Are you making yourself the butt of a joke because you think you deserve to be laughed at? Then no, that's not particularly attractive at all; it speaks of low self-esteem and an attempt at getting others to support that perception of yourself to validate it in some way.

But if you're doing it because you have a good sense of humor about it, and the self-confidence to take that sort of blow to the ego in stride and laugh along with everyone else, then I think that's highly attractive. It's a demonstration that you're the master of your own faults, instead of letting them be the master of you.
doitrockapella: (POINT ❖ what's yours will soon be mine)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2017-12-24 11:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Is there some reason why you aren't confident in yourself?

I realize that may sound sarcastic, but it's an honest question.
doitrockapella: (DEADPAN ❖ would you like a hint)

[personal profile] doitrockapella 2017-12-25 02:38 am (UTC)(link)
...

I may be going out on a limb here, but do you by any chance have some variety of romantic attachment to the person in question?