Texts from Late Night

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[ Posted sometime around like four in the morning: ]

Has anyone else found themselves falling in love with someone in those memories we all get? That might feel a little extreme, but the face has been sticking with me for a while now.

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Mine made me think about my family - the one from this lifetime, I mean.

I'm sure they stood a good chance of it, honestly. Especially given that, if she was in the city and you've not run into her yet, it would be an information imbalance - she'd come on this app and get her memories at a slower rate than you, right?

[floret]

Oh
yikes
I hadn't even considered that angle.
yikes yikes yikes
So then
If she did get the app
What should I do??
It'd be so weird and awful to just go up and tell her everything I've remembered. But talking to her without telling her any of that would definitely be creepy and wrong...
urrggghhhh

I should probably just try to avoid her forever, I guess???
Maybe go live in a cave or something

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No, no, no you can't just go live in a cave, that's no good for anyone.

But it's a real ethical issue, isn't it? I've wondered about it myself. How to meet someone I was family with in a previous life - if I even recognize them. In some ways, the most ideal version of things would be to not recognize them until they recognize it themselves. But, well.

I think the best thing would be to try to befriend them or at least make some relationship on this world's terms.

[floret]

mmnnggh
I guess you're right
I don't think there are any good caves around here anyway.

But the thing is...
I don't know
I mean if it's someone who's going to be happy to see us, then it's still complicated, but as long as we don't do anything SUPER weird and creepy, I feel like they'll probably end up being fine with it.

But if they probably wouldn't want to see us, given the choice...
Then
I don't know.

[matchbreaker]

Even if they don't (in that other life) while we are them, we aren't them. And while they are them, they aren't them. Lord knows I've got a girl or two who could show up I'd owe and apology to, but ...

Like I said, I think it evens out to try and see how it goes.

[floret]

Maybe...
I wonder at what point you bring the bad stuff up, though?
Is it just, like, saying hi, asking their name, chatting a bit about the weather, and then "btw it seems like things got super messed up between us in our past lives and it's cool if you'd rather not talk about that but if you WOULD just lmk and I will give you the full run-down"?

[matchbreaker]

To be honest, waiting for when they ask. That's how I'd do it.

[floret]

Is that fair to them?
I mean
You don't think they might feel betrayed? That we just let them think everything was fine and normal... trying to get them to like us while we still could, so that maybe they wouldn't be able to hate us even when they did remember?

[matchbreaker]

To be honest, it depends how you view the identity.

If it's 1:1, and we're the same as the past people with no differences, it's wildly unethical. If we aren't, and the identities we have now are at least a little bit unique, then to me it seems unfair to foist an expectation on them until it becomes a concern.