a-ko to b-ko no monogatari

[gudaguda]

Sakura Fujiwara shared a photo. May 17

Asking for a friend since she's not sure who to ask so I thought I would do it to everyone! So my friend, A-ko was friends with this girl, B-ko. A-ko always thought B-ko was really cool, but something about B-ko really set her off the wrong way. After time, it became clear that B-ko was standoffish because she didn't really know how to interact with people. Something weird happened to B-ko, like when I suddenly remembered about the horses. She went to A-ko and A-ko didn't know what to do, so she just comforted B-ko about the strange things that had happened. A-ko offered B-ko to sleep at her place and then during the night B-ko declared that she really liked A-ko and took her first kiss. A-ko now was the flustered one. So now A-ko is really confused since she was never in a relationship with anyone before and she knows a lot about B-ko's bad side and character flaws. A-ko then went to me for advice, but I didn't know what to tell her! I'm looking for input from anyone who has been in a relationship and I'll forward all the responses to her!

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[impulsives]

go for it? i mean she's still young so it's at least nice to get experience???

[ not that Shin knows what being in a relationship is like but well... WELL... it's a friend of a friend so he wants to help? ]

[gudaguda]

But A-ko and B-ko are friends! Wouldn't that ruin their friendship?

[impulsives]

i mean they're friends though, nothing much would have to change, it's just that they can do more things together now, if you get my drift.

[gudaguda]

I guess... but what should I tell A-ko? That she should just go for it because she doesn't have any experience? Give me a second.

[ there's a little bit of a gap where sakura is supposedly texting "a-ko" ]

A-ko got back to me and said that she's not got any qualms about going out with B-ko, but she's just scared of the unknown.

Haaah. A-ko is so difficult.

[impulsives]

[ see at least sakura made it look genuine, unlike an idiot he just texted earlier in the day. ]

the unknowns are meant to be explored! one of a kandam quote i've always held dear to my heart. [ this coming from the mecha fan shouldn't be surprising. ]

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[thesettingsun]

[Serial flirt here, happy to help.]

Everyone has flaws. If A-ko's waiting to date someone who doesn't have a bad side, she'll be waiting forever.

I think it's worth trying! As long as A-ko's hesitating because she's confused and not because she really dislikes B-ko.

[gudaguda]

That's a good point! I'll tell A-ko that immediately!

Also, how important would you say shared interests were?

[thesettingsun]

They're helpful, especially for the beginning of a relationship when you don't know what to talk about, and it makes it easier to do things together as a couple that you'll both like. But you can make a relationship work without them.

[gudaguda]

Ohhh... that's pretty telling. So it isn't a deal breaker, but it's nice to have.

Did I get that right? Just wanna tell A-ko accurate stuff since like her, I've not been in many relationships.

not here

[notbunaga]

[she's gonna go open her apartment window and jump out now

bye

nice knowing you a-ko]

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[sotenbori]

People change, you know? Sometimes, yeah, they did some bad shit and they were going through a hard time but being around the right people can really make a difference - and who knows, maybe what triggered the change was some kinda memory thing an B-ko wants to do things differently than she did in the past.

I mean you gotta tell A-ko not to take too much shit from B-ko -- she can support her, but don't go enabling whatever bad stuff happened, right? A-ko can be there for her as long as she puts her foot down if there's something bad happening. I mean I don't know the situation, of course, but lets say B-ko yelled a lot when she's angry. Maybe she doesn't want to yell that much, but it's just what she does. Then A-ko has to be able to say, "hey, B-ko, I like you but I don't want to be yelled at like that." And as long as B-ko and A-ko are honest and they really like each other the way it sounds like they do, then it'll all work out because they'll respect one another.

But I think A-ko should definitely go for it -- it sounds like she really likes B-ko! She's stuck around all this time and now she's all flustered it's obviously not just a one-way street and she's gonna regret it forever if she doesn't try.

[gudaguda]

Do you think the regret of not trying would really bite in the future?

It just seems so... distant to think about the future. I can't imagine what I do now would do to impact me in the future.

[sotenbori]

Yeah, I do.

[not that he knows...anything...about regrets...rip]

I know it's hard to consider, but put yourself in A-ko's shoes. Imagine what it'd be like for her once she sees B-ko with someone else, or if B-ko moves away, or whatever reason -- she'd always know she could've had that but she was too scared to even try. And then pretty soon someone else is making B-ko happy and bringing out the best of her.

[gudaguda]

Oh that's so sad... it sounds like a shoujo manga that I read once...

You sound very knowledgeable in these affairs though! So I guess I can trust your advice to tell B-ko!

[longwei2go]

asking for a friend is the oldest trick in the book but alright
ill bite
i got three words for your friend

GET IT GURL

[gudaguda]

a-ko is a real person with real feelings!!!!

[longwei2go]

lbr it wont change my answer
lifes too short to waste a good shot

[gudaguda]

You mean nevermind the consequences, just go for it?

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[ghostories]

[ HMM. Yuuko has some experience with romance now! She thinks she can answer this question really well! ]

if a-ko can learn to accept b-ko's flaws, what's the problem?
a-ko's already considering a relationship with b-ko, so doesn't that mean she likes her?
just go for it, a-ko!

[gudaguda]

I think A-ko's scared! Like she seemed scared in telling me, and then... I guess its like sky diving? You don't know what to expect when you do it the first time.

[ghostories]

haha, i know the feeling
when i first met my boyfriend
he seemed flaky, fake, perverted
and a pushover
he was the worst

Why did I not see this?

[b0mbshell]

Tell A-ko that nobody's perfect and it's better than pining.

At least ask

[nope wait]

At least tell A-ko to ask B-ko if she wants to kiss her again.

[gudaguda]

A-ko is a pure girl! She doesn't know what to do with the fact that she was kissed because it happened so suddenly.

Apparently it didn't feel bad.

[b0mbshell]

Then maybe A-ko needs to try again to be sure.

And then maybe a few more times.

Like clinical testing. You have to check all the results to be certain.

[gudaguda]

But doesn't that require the consent of both participants if its an experiment?

What if B-ko doesn't want to kiss A-ko again?