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[sunnyspot]

Do any of you keep having memories of someone who's never been in your life?

I keep seeing visions of someone that I can tell is really important to my memory/past/alternate universe self, but I don't know anything about them. I've never had anyone like that. But even though I've never met them, every weird memory I've gotten seems to be about this person, so I think they must be really important.

Am I supposed to feel like something's missing? I figured this is a pretty common thing, so...

Thanks. Sorry if this doesn't make sense.

Comments

[parodeity]

yeah
sometimes they eventually show up but like
ive remembered lots of people i never knew
its a weird sort of missing people i think
when you do
but i also think it might not be so weird
?
not sure the english language has enough stupid terminology for our exact experiences

[sunnyspot]

It's hard to come up with words for it, especially when we don't know why we're getting these memory visions in the first place.

But I'm glad you understand. Not missing someone, I mean, but just in general.

Maybe I'll be like you and start remembering more people eventually. In the grand scheme of things, maybe it's not so weird after all...

[maskreant]

sounds like love.

[sunnyspot]

What?!

Just because it's only one person doesn't automatically mean it's like that!

[thesettingsun]

I don't have anybody like that. The only person who's showed up twice in my memories is a guy who picks on past me, it's kind of pathetic.

But I think it's better to have somebody important than no one important? Or if there's someone who should be important to past you, but you've only see them once.

[sunnyspot]

I see. So it wasn't a positive memory. I'm sure I'll start remembering things like that too.

But I think you're right... It's better than being lonely. Maybe I only had one friend, so everything I'm seeing is about them.

[amodelidol]

I haven't had a memory like that yet, but I have had a memory of someone who was in my life before and they're here now.

I think it's something that happens. It doesn't sound like a bad thing though that sounds like a really nice memory.

[sunnyspot]

You too, Makoto? Was it a similar situation, or do you have a different relationship with them?

Yeah... They aren't bad memories. I just kind of wish I knew them, I guess. Or had someone that important to me now.

[matchbreaker]

For me, she had a whole family I've never known - husband, child, a few grandchildren.

It makes perfect sense, I assure you.

[sunnyspot]

Perfect sense? Sorry, I can't tell if you're being serious or not...

But that sounds tough. If it was someone important to you, I mean.

[buncho]

yes and if i met him in rl i would probably punch his face in

so whos this person? your stalker? were YOU the stalker?

[sunnyspot]

Messing with you would be a mistake. I never want to get on your bad side.

But I don't think either of us were stalkers?! I think they're a friend.

[fiddlestick]

I've gotten memories like that.
Honestly, I'm not sure what to make of them.

[sunnyspot]

It seems pretty common, at least from what I can tell.

Me too, though. I don't know if there's a right or wrong way to think about it, but I keep thinking back on it anyway.

[kagepuro]

It's weird, isn't it?

Every memory I get of him, my heart swells a little more...I keep liking him more and more, even though I don't even know him.

Is it like that for you, too Kouhei?

[sunnyspot]

[Why does Ayano have to nail what he's feeling so hard.... Girls.]

It's...

I think it's probably closer to a friendly type of "like", but when you put it that way...

Yeah. I guess it is like that.

[gudaguda]

He's a great big brother type. Ever since I saw him in my memory I've been keeping my eye out for him but...

It's not unusual, I don't think.

[sunnyspot]

A big brother type sounds nice. Especially if you don't have any siblings.

It seems common, but I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this.

[sketchythief]

i think that makes perfect sense... i only have memories of people i never met before in my life, even my family is different

[sunnyspot]

So you're the same as me. I don't know about my family, but I know my house was different in my memories.

That sounds strange, though... since you usually look like your family. It would be weird to see family members that looked like you but you didn't know.

[toobigtohandle]

Sort of. There's a person that I know was important, but I can't remember his face or his name.

[sunnyspot]

I see. It's like piecing together a puzzle, kind of.

I remembered the face of the person I was talking about, but I still don't know their name. So I know how you feel, even if it's just a little.

[sotenbori]

if youre asking if youre supposed to feel that way
does that mean you dont?

[sunnyspot]

No, the problem is that I do... kind of. You can't really miss someone you don't know, so it's probably just curiosity, but it's strange.

[grimdeity]

I believe it's a common thing.
Maybe not to your degree.
Though just because someone was important to you in your "memories" doesn't mean they are to your current self, technically.
Unless you believe in reincarnation and fate, in which case you should find that missing person for they could be your soulmate or some nonsense like that.

For the record so far I've mostly seen people I actually know, so cannot necessarily relate to your quandary.

[sunnyspot]

That makes sense. I think that's the most logical way to look at it. ...Except for the soulmate thing, I've never really believed in that stuff.

But that's really interesting. It seems like it might be kind of rare, since you're the only person I've talked to that's said that.

Is it too personal to ask how different they are in your memories? Or if your relationship with them has changed or something.

[eyestitch]

yeah i mean

there's this girl! she's in a lot of em. she's so stupid but in a way that's really cute! i just wanna choke her, yk?

but the problem is i'm pretty sure she's responsible for this thing that happened to me last month.

she is definitely definitely definitely DEFINITELY the bad guy in my 'story!'

[sunnyspot]

You think she's cute, but still want to choke her?!

It makes more sense if she's like a villain character, but. You wouldn't actually choke her, right?

[blessmefather]

It stands to reason if you become emotionally attached then you would naturally feel something towards the characters in the memories.

[ Is "characters" an odd word for the other people? Maybe a little more distant than the way others have talked about the people they know of from memories? ]

[sunnyspot]

[Characters, huh? It's certainly an interesting term.... But Kouhei has compared the situation to stories found in novels and movies before, so it makes sense to him.]

I don't think I've become that emotionally attached, though? I still don't know too much about them yet, but even though I'm curious, I'm not sure how much more I want to learn.

I can send you voice messages again, if you want. It's no problem.

[notyourutopian]

I have yet to see a single person from real life in those memories.
Which is somewhat unusual but
I know I'm not the only one.

[sunnyspot]

You definitely aren't, I'm the same way.

But I've also mainly seen one person, so someone I know could show up later on. The same may go for you.

[frostythehitman]

yeah
there's this whole team of people i knew and worked with and lived with
and no one else remembers them or is getting their memories

which is probably for the best anyway

[sunnyspot]

That many people? It's hard enough to just deal with one, so I can't imagine how complex that could get.

Especially if the memories are of people you've never met, and no one else can relate to you about it.

Would you not want them to?

[wordcarvings]

A woman I was married to. Or rather, the other me was married to. I'm feeling such great emotions regarding her, too.

But at first I had no idea that she was my wife. There was just the memories and the feelings that grew more and more apparent.

[sunnyspot]

I see... That would be difficult, knowing they were a person your other self loved enough to marry.

If you were reliving your other self's memories, of course you'd wind up feeling strongly about her.... But it must be hard.

[manufactured]

I've remembered a fair few people in a negative capacity; they tend to recur quite a bit, but I suppose that's to be expected; we were on differing sides of a conflict that was important to both of us.

I'm never sure what to make of the positive memories, however. There's a fair amount of what you're describing, I believe - though it's not missing them, it's never quite like that. It's closer to knowing that something is supposed to be there, but everything is so detached from the original situation that nothing is. It's that sort of hollow feeling, I think, that's most striking to me about it.

[sunnyspot]

Having a conflict like that would make things even more challenging, I think. I haven't had any negative memories yet, but I'm sure they'll come up. Everyone has them, so I doubt the me in my memories is any exception. Plus, they seem similar to me.

...That's exactly it. I don't think I'd be able to put it into words any better than that, but that's exactly what I'm feeling. It isn't painful or sad, just... empty. Like something's missing. That must be the same for you.

[blind_badass]

I haven't remembered anything like that lately. Although I do remember being at what I think is the corner of a street and someone smaller and younger than me is promising that she'll protect me from any cars and won't let me get hurt.

[sunnyspot]

That's a really sweet memory. Do you think she might have been a family member? It's cute, her wanting to protect you.

...Would you mind if I asked you a more personal question? Since it's you, I don't think you'll mind, but just in case.