Franklin "Foggy" Nelson (
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retrospec2018-04-19 09:50 pm
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[TEXT] It's a quarter after 1 I'm a little drunk and what were the next lyrics?
[Sometimes Mr. Nelson's students forget their teacher is on the network. This time Mr. Nelson forgot his students were on the network. This message brought to you by a stressed middle aged man drinking WAY TOO MANY shots late Friday night.]
Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!
But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.
Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????
I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.
Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!
But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.
Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????
I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.
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that's why my students were yammering on about the heart stone aura
[Why would that mean something to Cumore? He never told him who it was.]
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[...honey
honey you weren't a subtle man when we were talking about murdock]
Well. I've never been one for relationships, they're all kind of a messy business. But communication sounds like it might be a good thing, if nothing else.
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wasn't sure if it was something i should say
it's difficult to explain without making it sound liek
"HURRY UP AND FIX ALL YOUR SHIT"
when it's not hurry up that i want to say
he's confused enough
i'm adding on to that with this
what kind of jerk does that?
bad enough that i posted this without thinking how he would feel when he finds out
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YES
those words
and then
should I be saving this space for you
or
talking about waiting makes it sound impatient by nature though
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...this is like when his clients actually need him to be halfway diplomatic and just not let them talk, got it.]
...Try something more along the lines of "I'll wait for you if you want me to, for as long as it takes for you to be comfortable with things - but I need to know that's what I'm doing"?
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that's
perfect?
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I'm really just telling you what you're telling me. The thoughts are all there, it's just a matter of making it a little less...whatever the post decided to be.</font.
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It's okay. I'm well aware.
Wish I had sorted out those thoughts for myself
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We really ought to talk when all parties involved are sober sometime. I think we've managed that perhaps once so far.
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Clear head next time
I owe you a trip to one of those training meetings
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But I'd like that, of course. If nothing else we could probably do something on our own if they aren't actively running at the moment.
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Definitely show up sober for that kind of thing
None of those improvised flame throwers while intoxicated
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[How many swords does he mean when he says that?]
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[...like Spot The JRPG Character levels of many swords.]
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