[TEXT] It's a quarter after 1 I'm a little drunk and what were the next lyrics?

[devilsadvocato]

[Sometimes Mr. Nelson's students forget their teacher is on the network. This time Mr. Nelson forgot his students were on the network. This message brought to you by a stressed middle aged man drinking WAY TOO MANY shots late Friday night.]

Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!

But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.

Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????

I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.

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[dejerate]

[....What. Okay he might vaguely remember those stone things. But to be fair there was also a lot going on then. And he still sometimes forgets that Foggy is on the app. That things like.....this....happen as a result. Okay, so he is no tiny kid assuming teachers live at school or whatever without a life outside of the classroom but at the same time this was. Unexpected?

Yeah he was probably one of the oblivious students that never really picked up on the romance side of it. Not that it stops him now from poking fun or now probably deliberately bringing the subject up to divert attention from whatever lesson plan there was.]

I dunno? Relationships aren't exactly my specialty. But I assume he'll figure it eventually? You okay there, Mr Nelson?

[devilsadvocato]

[Somewhere mixed in with the onset panic following this message is a terrible temptation to joke reply with "what are Yuu doing here?"]

i'm fimee
i'm fine
don't worry
please forget that
i'm going to delte it in a second
don't forget your homework on monday

[NAILED IT]

[parodeity]

step one might be not telling 200+ ppl about a thing someone is apparently uncomfortable w and coming to terms with but thats just me
step two is maybe talk about it and apologize for failing step one while youre at it

[devilsadvocato]

shiT
how long has it been since I posted this
how do you delete things on this app
i'm a fuckking jerk what was i thinking
you are correct
this was beyond stupid

If some moron did this to you would you forgive them or would this thing be officially blown?

[angealwings]

It sounds like your conversation about it was quite some while ago. Have you tried talking about it again? I'm pretty sure that he'd rather know that he's keeping *you* out of balance.

Sorry, that may not be much help.

[devilsadvocato]

no that helps
that's a great way of putting it. "out of balance"
it's been a while since we talked about labels
i keep letting this stuff happen without asking

i feel like such an a hole having this impatience or frustration
but i'm getting crazy confused
he's scared of labels but he'll do things a boyfriend would do anyway
there's a limit to what i should agree to right?
like it would be wrong for this to go on for months an months more
without some type of like agreement that this is that type of relationship
right?
otherwise i'm letting him have all of this without any committment
i don't know if any of that makes sense

[thisloveisjustice]

Cuddling, huh? Regular movie nights? Sure sounds like you're dating this person to me?

Though, I suppose it depends on where you 'laid one on him.' Cheek or mouth?

[devilsadvocato]

i plead the fifth

private

[usurpers]

[ . . . ruh roh. thing is, he knows this story. he knows this story from matt’s side. ]

are you sober now?

Re: private

[devilsadvocato]

And full of regret. Yes.

[A groan and a forehead rub later the words "movie night" hit him. SHIT]

Eren I'm going to be straightforward.
Did I just out our mutual friend to you with that drunk post?

[drydrown]

...The general wisdom of broadcasting this to multiple people notwithstanding, I'd suggest letting him figure things out on his own time? I would have been beyond irritated if someone had tried pushing me while I was sorting myself out. I admit I'm not a patient man, but this is still probably infinitely more complicated for him than it is for you.

So really, Nelson, just take a walk and let him work himself out. It'll happen eventually.

[devilsadvocato]

i should have found an anonymous advice person to send this to

Will it happen though
I keep wondering if right when the dust clears some hot ex is going to sweep him off his feet
Because I was just that friend that agreed to push the platonic boundary and it was fun while it lasted but bye

[Pray the bartender cut him off.]

[meowchanics]

You draw the line wherever it says "signature" on the contract for the romcom movie rights.
Any other questions? I'm technically a doctor.

[He also teaches. He feels you, random stranger bro.]

[devilsadvocato]

what?

[He's too drunk for this. Drawing a line where the signature is would be crossing it out right?]

you mean stop spending time with him?
what kind of doctor
are you shrink?

[redarm]

is this gonna be on the final
cause otherwise i wanna bleach my brain and forget I ever read this.

[devilsadvocato]

i'm sorry noah
i didn't mean for you to see this
your teacher is blowing it big tiem tonight

[You know your English teacher is really wasted when he doesn't capitalize, spell check, or use punctuation.]

Private Message

[blondferret]

Bloody hell. What has been going on between you and Matt? You're practically dating!

Re: Private Message

[devilsadvocato]

Any chance you can forget you read that?

[invocate]

There is someone you like Mr Nelson? Is he cute?

[ASKING THE IMPORTANT QUESTIONS HERE]

[devilsadvocato]

[After all those other messages this is so much easier on his not all there at the moment brain.]

Strong yes to both
Wait were you one of the ones in Feb who wanted to know about this
Stupid heart shaped rock

[doesntdiscriminate]

As someone whose both serious relationships have been friends to lovers kind of things I sympathize with your situation. In my experience they're always a bit tricky in the beginning and since mine were with girls I haven't even had to deal with the gay/closet problem. Yet.

How long ago was it you had the 'lets just remain friends' conversation? Because it sounds like it was a while ago and if your relationship have progressed from regular movie nights to regular cuddling since then I don't think it would be out of line for you to bring it up again.

[devilsadvocato]

Yeah! Any good gf or bf relationship contains a good friendship too
And some people are super affectionate toward their friends
It's confusing where the divide is. What means I like you friend v I LIKE you
Oh are you bi too?

It's been a few months since we talked about it. I don't want to sound like I'm yelling at him to hurry up by bringing it up too soon you know?

[flowrite]

hm. Usually I have the opposite problem instead, but it sounds to me like you need a wingman!

[devilsadvocato]

opposite so like your friends are all in love with you but you don't feel that way?
What would you do if you were my wingman?
I don't know what a 3rd party could do to help

[vitis]

damn
stuff like this kinda has me grateful i tend to stay off my phone when i've had a few

i mean, you are drunk, right

[devilsadvocato]

Yeah
I'm like two beers and a few shots in
Learn from my example
Don't become a drunk dude with confusing relationship issues
Dint
Don't spoon your best friend EVER
don't have serious conversations when you watch Legally Blonde or Tangled together either

[floret]

You're "turning down other dates," like dates plural, and this is just within the past couple of months...?
Do you have any advice for, like, how to get asked out??

[devilsadvocato]

Yeah I've been asked by a few different people.
Can't say they were ALL after an actual date.
It helps to go out and meet new people
I talk to a lot of strangers when I go places
like the bar
obviously
Are you struggling with a certain part of finding a date?

[odasaku]

You're drunk.

[devilsadvocato]

that's meeeeeeeee

text;

[huxceptional]

[Just returning the favor.]

Re: text;

[devilsadvocato]

[If he was more sober he'd have a better come back.]

Please you wish you had my problem!