Franklin "Foggy" Nelson (
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retrospec2018-04-19 09:50 pm
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[TEXT] It's a quarter after 1 I'm a little drunk and what were the next lyrics?
[Sometimes Mr. Nelson's students forget their teacher is on the network. This time Mr. Nelson forgot his students were on the network. This message brought to you by a stressed middle aged man drinking WAY TOO MANY shots late Friday night.]
Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!
But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.
Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????
I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.
Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!
But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.
Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????
I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.
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[Meaning, he's SO NOT GOING TO FORGET THIS!]
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For me?
I screwed up I should never have posted that
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I was not using my brain
and I'm a terrible friend for doing it
I'm deleting it
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This is the definition of airing someone's dirty laundry
Cumore does have good advice that I will remember
The post can go
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[Derek refuses to allow Foggy to screw up his potential relationship with Matt due to his drinking habits! Don't undo all his hard work to help you Foggy!]
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He wasn't wrong to be mad at you and he wouldn't be wrong to be mad with me
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[Look at whose still a bit miffed at how Matt treated him while he was trying to apologize.]
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I thought you patched things up. I mean not perfectly but where is this new "he was being a dick" accusation coming from?
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You weren't expecting it to be a walk in the park were you?
I mean you can say sorry and you can tell a person that you feel super bad about what happened but that doesn't make it so they conveniently owe you their forgiveness
Like it's more complicated the bigger the fight too
And that fight was ugly man
He might not have believed you understood how bad you hurt him
All the stuff I had to explain to you does start to point in that direction honestly
I don't know if you know exactly how scared he is of getting rejected for being bi
He and I talked about this like I said in the post
He told me he isn't sure he could keep his cool if like we were just hugging all sweetly and Mary or Tatsuo saw us
And you know how much he loves them and they're cool with him dating guys
He literally broke down and cried in my arms twice now talking about his struggle with this
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You know what? You're drunk. And probably not in the proper state of mind told hold this conversation. You go to bed, get sober, and maybe I'll feel like talking to you about this another time.
[Probably not. Derek is thinking that Foggy is so head over heals for Matt, that he will probably never sees Derek's side of the argument in any sort of light.]
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Yeah I'm tired
But don't go bailing just because it's hard to hear man
Ask someone else who has had to struggle with their sexuality
They'd tell you this is heavy shit
And like maybe you're still mad because you don't want to be wrong? I don't know
[He shrugs there in the bar. Cutting it off there makes it seem highly likely that Derek is avoiding a part of the problem.]
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I'm not bailing because it was hard to hear. I already knew that stuff. Get over yourself. I just don't want to get into a pointless argument with my cousin who is emotional and drunk.
[Derek would seriously not like to repeat what happened in January.]
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Getting touchy there
I'm not sobbing or anything
My ride is here so I'm going
But food for thought
You should take it into consideration
[Must not have been what Derek wanted to hear. Hm.]