[TEXT] It's a quarter after 1 I'm a little drunk and what were the next lyrics?

[devilsadvocato]

[Sometimes Mr. Nelson's students forget their teacher is on the network. This time Mr. Nelson forgot his students were on the network. This message brought to you by a stressed middle aged man drinking WAY TOO MANY shots late Friday night.]

Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!

But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.

Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????

I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.

Comments

[usurpers]

only because he told me about it a while back.
did he see this yet?

[devilsadvocato]

Oh thank god. I screwed this up badly enough as it is.
If he knows about it he hasn't said anything yet.
He might be busy with work.
I'm going to delete the post but I'm not going to hide it from him.

[usurpers]

looks like you already know what to do. it’s a good first step.
i really think you should tell him how you feel, though.

[devilsadvocato]

You don't think telling him will lay on too much pressure?
When someone says they're past the "It's just a little crush" stage that can carry an elephant sized weight. It freaks out people who actually ARE dating sometimes.
I don't want him to feel pressured to rush to figure out his problem either but bringing up the subject like this has urgent flashing in big neon lights all around it.

[usurpers]

it’s great that you’re thinking about how he feels foggy. you’re putting him before you, that’s more than enough to show that you care.
but there’s a limit. you have feelings too. sometimes kicking someone out of the comfort zone is what you need to do to show them that it isn’t...... some three headed monster like they think it is.
tell him how you feel. it’s no use if he’s ok with it but you’re not.

[devilsadvocato]

It's not like I can hide this much longer any way. I'd probably slip up and say something or he'd literally smell it somehow.

I don't know if you've ever noticed how hard Matt is on himself sometimes? There have been a few times he basically went on a "I'm not worthy of you" spiel. Maybe he thinks something bad will happen if we make it official.

[usurpers]

i noticed. it might be something along those lines, too.
i just want him to be the one tell you, not me.

[devilsadvocato]

Yeah. Once I fight off this hangover I'm going to talk to him. Assuming I can work up the courage.

Sorry. We just met and here I am embarrassing myself and dragging Matt in too. Not exactly great assurance that I'd make a good boyfriend to one of the people you care about.

[usurpers]

you can and you will.
come on, it was a slip up. im not going to judge you because you have feelings.
and matt’s the one who’s deciding that, too. he makes good calls with people.

[devilsadvocato]

Thanks man. I promise I won't make a habit out of this.
I'll be better behaved the next time we talk whenever that is.

[usurpers]

dude
stop, i mean. i’m not the behavior police. that’s not what friends are even for.

[devilsadvocato]

Thanks Eren.
I can see why Matt thinks so highly of you

[usurpers]

just doing what feels right.
let me know how things go.