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retrospec2018-04-19 09:50 pm
devilsadvocato) wrote in retrospec2018-04-19 09:50 pm
[TEXT] It's a quarter after 1 I'm a little drunk and what were the next lyrics?
[Sometimes Mr. Nelson's students forget their teacher is on the network. This time Mr. Nelson forgot his students were on the network. This message brought to you by a stressed middle aged man drinking WAY TOO MANY shots late Friday night.]
Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!
But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.
Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????
I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.
Say you and the guy you have feelings for agree to stay just friends because even though he feels the same way about you he's not comfortable dating other guys yet. You two continue hanging out and get even closer and the next thing you know you're regularly meeting for movie night and having serious heart to heart conversations with each other. Best friends fuck yeah!
But then things start to get into a very very grey territory where you're doing things friends don't normally do. Like cuddling up to each other or spooning and you might have laid one on him once or twice. Also people start thinking you're not single because back in FEB your stupid heart stone convinced like half the kids you teach that you're madly in love with someone and getting married any day now- THEIR WORDS not mine. Sure you haven't said those special words directly to him but you're getting very serious about him and he keeps alluding to being very serious about you. And you don't want to force anyone to rush into something they're not ready for but you're turning down dates when others ask you out because it feels like you have a boyfriend even though you don't.
Where do you draw the line between "I'm respecting your wishes to say we're just friends because you're not comfortable with your sexual orientation yet" and "Buddy no matter how many times we call each other dude and pal it's crazy to say we're not dating at this point"????
I asked the bartender and they looked at me like I was insane.
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I'm like two beers and a few shots in
Learn from my example
Don't become a drunk dude with confusing relationship issues
Dint
Don't spoon your best friend EVER
don't have serious conversations when you watch Legally Blonde or Tangled together either
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you definitely assumed the risk on that one, yeah
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I mean it didn't help that I had a thing for him way back
We met at summer camp when we were young
Puppy love man
Pure like the purest filtered Brita water
Yeah don't spoon your best friend
Don't show affection to anyone you're attracted to because you might fall for them
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you ever think of just talking this out? beyond what you've already done, i guess
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I've considered it yeah
Problem is I keep backing out getting worried that I'll spook him like some wild animal
And he'll end up being untrue to himself just to make me happy
This only works if it's a joint decision